Secret Orgasm Extender~ A girl's best friend!

My Sensational Secret Orgasm Extender~

Greedy girls pay attention: If you want a longer, deeper, more intense orgasm, you are at the right place. Considering the average female orgasm lasts between 15 and 30 seconds, it's not surprising that many women feel a little, well, cheated when it comes to coming.

Now imagine an orgasm that lasts a full 30 minutes, with the odd random contraction happening up to a day afterward. This was the astonishing promise of two U.S. sexologists who pioneered what's called the Extended Sexual Orgasm technique in the 80s. It was a pretty big claim -- and it got a pretty big response at the time. But just like the G-spot, when people couldn't figure out the whole orgasmic program in five minutes flat, it quickly and quietly disappeared into the “too complicated” basket… until now.
Sex therapists have recently resurrected Extended Sexual Orgasm (ESO) -- and are seeing some spectacular results. What's changed? The fact is, we're far more sex-savvy now than ever before.
So let's get started and learn together~

Step One:
Think positively about sex. Most of us, according to the sexologists, resist pleasure rather than welcome pleasure-- so in simple terms, this means thinking, “This is great -- let's go with it,” rather than “Oh God, my Mother would freak if she saw me now.”

Do Kegel pelvic floor exercises. For the uninitiated -- and where have you been? -- these involve squeezing, holding, then releasing the same muscle you use to stop the flow of urine. The idea is to strengthen your pubococcygeus muscles, and standard sets involve clenching and releasing 25 to 30 times, three times a day.

Pay attention when you masturbate. If you already know which strokes, speed, pressure and rhythms suit you, well done! Practice makes perfect!

Stage Two: With Your Partner

You lie down while he sits or kneels cross-legged beside or in between your legs. Next he should lightly brush and stroke you, but he's not allowed to stimulate the clitoris and inside the vagina. He does this for at least five minutes.
The stimulation now moves to the clitoris. He should slowly and steadily circle the clitoris with a finger, travelling around it once per second. At the same time, you tell him exactly what pressure and rhythm feels good.
As he continues to stimulate your clitoris, you start doing your pelvic floor squeezes as you breathe deeply from your stomach. Prepare for your orgasm, because now it gets a bit complicated for him.
As you feel you're about to climax, he should watch and feel for regular two-second contractions; this means you're about to orgasm. Once these contractions start, he needs to stop stimulating the clitoris and immediately move to stroking you. Using his fingers, he can either push them in and out, or sweep them in circles in and out of the entrance. If he concentrates more in the front (the bit underneath your tummy), stroking with his fore and middle finger is another option. Most crucial of all, whichever technique he chooses, the rhythm should be slow and steady.

After you've had your orgasm, he'll feel the vagina start to pull away - the point when most couples stop. But not this time! In ESO, your first orgasm is only the beginning, remember? Instead, he continues using his fingers inside the vagina, using a light touch initially, then upping the frequency and pressure once you feel ready for more. This should set off another series of contractions.
The minute he feels a pause in the pulsating, he should move quickly back to stroking the clitoris as before. If he continues to steadily circle the clitoris, this should trigger even more contractions - at which point he moves back to stimulating inside the vagina again. He then continues switching back and forth from vaginal to clitoral stimulation until your contractions occur every one to five seconds.
After doing this for 15 minutes, the contractions start to become continuous. When the vagina pushes out in a continual wave-like motion, you're in the final phase. He now gets into a position where he can use both hands -- and keep his balance -- to stimulate the clitoris and the vagina simultaneously. The result: wave after wave of orgasms.

…And to think we were all going to give up!

Marriage Tips: Intimacy~

Don’t believe the jokes you’ve heard about passionate marriage: "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married, and by then it was too late." Or “The longest sentence you can form with two words: ‘I do.’" Many professional studies in my opinion have missed the mark on marriage -- at least as far as sex and intimacy are concerned.

Sex researchers have found that passionate marriage is alive and well; in fact, marriage is where the best and most satisfying sex is happening in America. Married couples have more sex, more varied sex (including oral sex) -- and more emotionally and physically satisfying sex -- than singles. When sex works well, it can add a great deal to how happy couples feel about their lives -- as much as a 15% to 20% increase in satisfaction.

When passionate marriage works well, it works very, very well. However, when it doesn’t work well, it’s awful. When sex works badly, it can take away 50% to 70% of marital satisfaction.

Don’t Settle for Less Than a Passionate Marriage

Yes, there is work in trying to create or sustain a passionate marriage. But it doesn’t mean your marriage is in trouble if you are feeling less passionate or if sex is less exciting than when you first met each other. That is inevitable -- infatuation fades and sexual boredom is a given in marriage.

But you don’t have to settle for less than a passionate marriage. With careful attention and a little creativity, you can keep the home fires burning.

How to Reconcile Sex and Passion With Domesticity

It is the dilemma of modern relationships: reconciling security and adventure -- eroticism and domesticity -- in the same place. We live decades longer than we did a century ago, and we expect to have sex and passion, both for pleasure and connection -- not just reproduction -- for the rest of our lives, too.

“Expectations are over the top. We want security and financial support, and the best friend and trusted confidant -- and a passionate lover -- all in one.” So is passionate marriage impossible? “Yes, as a sustained thing. Passion comes and goes with many changes.”

People have the mistaken idea that if there is “sexual chemistry” then good sex doesn’t take work. That’s simply wrong. The chemicals don’t make for good sex -- nor do they get “used up.” To keep passion flowing rather than fading away in a relationship takes work -- on yourself as an individual and work together as a couple. And the best time to start is before the flames are out.